More Loving Thought From Belinda

You enjoyed reading my previous post from fellow bae fan belinda? Well there's more from her so I'm posting it here for you to read as well.

Here are more loving tips on how BYJ can try to keep HAPPY despite the weight he carries on his shoulders:

Dear Yong-Joon,

1. You are blessed with a wonderful sense of humor and a childlike freshness/guilelessness about you. I pray that you will never run out of those qualities. I pray that you will learn to laugh at yourself and at the world some more. Go ahead and welcome a reality-check, as often as you can. It's a good way to keep your balance.

2. If it bothers you but there is nothing you can do about it at the moment, leave it, let it be amd get on with the important matters tat you can do something about. What's the point of stressing over a problem that you cannot solve? Bad press? Loss of privacy? Unfortunately, they come with the territory. When the going get's tough, count your blessings and then get tough yourself.

3. I trust your family nurtures and supports you no matter what or when or where. So please stay close to them and draw strength from them especially when your legs are about to buckle under from the weight that you carry. Your family will not fail you.

4. Make your own home or a private space a pamper reward center; fill it with all the things that you find soothing, peaceful and pleasurable.

5. Surround yourself with good people, people who have a healthy sense of humor and a lot of humility. People who nurture, people who are honest and authentic. True friends no matter what, when or where. Please stay away from people who take themselves too seriously and have a twisted sense of their own importance. Stay away from insincere people; they are toxic.

6. Take your camera with you as often as you like and as often as you can. Give the paparazzi a dose of their own medicine (all in good, clean fun) and help them learn to be a good sport about it. For every photo they take of you, allow yourself to take one photo of them. " What goes around comes around." Happy clicking BYJ!

7. When your're in a public place and if you're in the mood for it, before anyone can approach you make the first move. You do the watching and observing. (Oh course it not polite to stare but it's not a sin to observe people either. I do it a hot, hehehe) Interview someone interesting and willing to be interviewed. Ask for an autograph if you want to. The point? At least you know you're the one taking the initiative instead of being the one "ambushed" all the time.

8. There are ways to remind people that there is a right time for everything (Eccleasiastes). Of course, it takes some getting used to but it won't hurt to start helping people get used to it.

For instance, set a "Fans Day" at Park BOF every month (as often as your schedule will allow, anyway). This is the day you spend precious time with your "family", dialogue and tell stories with them. Share your thoughts and feelings as a person with them, share a meal and discuss your projects (if you want) and give them your autographed photos. In a way you satisfy their (our) need to have a glimpse of you, hear your wonderful voice and take something of you/from you back home with them to tide them through the next days without you.

This is also the chance for your to engage their support in making it possible for you to preserve a little private space for yourself. I bet your "family" will only be too happy to help you guard your privacy especially if you are dedicating a private day with them that they can look forward to. Anyway, to a certain extent it beats having to follow you arond on the off-chance that your would look their (our) way.

(You might want to have a "Press Fellowship Day", up t you.)

9. We don't expect you to be dressed-up-to-the-nines-glamorious all the time. So please dress comfortably, as often as your psyche yearns for it. Did you know that the beauty about being you is that you can dress in your comfortable jeans and tees and still look enviably and tastefully gorgeous?

We know you're a fashion icon and that there is a certain image you want to maintain. But we are simple people with simple taste and, as far as we are concerned, we're just happy to accept you as you are. We don't want you to come off looking so "unreachable". For as long as you are comfortable, confident and at peace with yourself, we are thrilled.

10. When you're feeling sad and alone, after you say a little prayer for GOD to see you through the hump, please read your fan's love notes to you. There's an overflowing reservoir of good feelings and loving thoughts to lift you up. Feel free to indulge.

11. And when you finally get around to it- as I hope you will. Please visit the sites dedicated for you. They brim with love and support for you too.

Please don't forget, your happiness is up to you. Be well, Dear BYJ!